The No-Resolutions New Years Resolutions

In recent years, I’ve given up on creating a new years resolutions list.  Mostly because, you know, I never followed them.  I think “lose weight” has been a resolution since about 1990.  For 2014 though, there are some more mental health related resolutions I’d like to make and stick to, more to help me stress less!  They are:

Meal Planning

Oh boy, is this a biggie.  When I meal plan, I swear everything is just about stress free with the added bonus of everyone eating healthy meals.  In the past I’ve planned for a month at a time which really did work well but I think I’ll stick to weekly as we often have some last minute interruptions to plans.  The meal planning definitely makes me stress less!  I use the meal planner pad from Kikki K:

kikki k meal planner pad

No More News

Technically this is something I’ve done for about six months now, but I no longer watch or read news.  I found it was triggering periods where I’d feel really blah, particularly when the stories involved children or animals being hurt in some way, or some kind of injustice.  The final straw came when I read an article that upset me so much that Husband and I decided to configure our server firewall to disallow my computer access the news sites.  I don’t care about celebrity news and if there’s something major I should know about, I’ll no doubt find out pretty quickly from Husband or a family member.  And I can always check out the positive/good news sites!

 

Heavily Reduced Social Media and General Computer Distractions and Especially Never-Read-The-Comments

I’m not big on social media at all.  It makes me feel very anti social, but I’ve always been a rebel like that.  I have a Facebook account I forget to log in to these days, though I used to be quite active on it earlier in the year.  I found that when I’d meet new people at an event, everyone started friending each other.  So I felt obligated to do the same (which leads me to the next resolution of assertiveness, ha ha…) even though I didn’t know these people and I only wanted close friends and family on my fb.  And then these people would start posting links to articles or comments that I really disagree with and in some cases found personally offensive, particularly when it referred to matters my family deals with.  I found that these comments, images and whatnot really spoilt my mood and all by people I don’t consider buddies.  So I nuked just about everyone and stripped it right back (though like I said now, I barely use it and prefer email!).  I have also started cutting way down on my google+ hangouts.  The hangouts are great but even with notifications turned off, I was still checking them far too often.  If I know something is there, turning off notifications doesn’t stop me from checking!  I’ve now removed myself from most of the hangouts and have kept family hangouts to a minimum (which are very low traffic anyway) and only one social event hangout.  Already it feels so much better.

I’m not in to playing games on my computer or phone.  I got as far as installing Angry Birds and quickly got bored with it so uninstalled it, so I’m thankful for that at least!  But I am very easily distracted by computer stuff.  A typical example would be I am doing something else (like housework) then stop to look up say, a recipe.  While I’m looking up recipes, I might also refresh my blog reader.  Oh look, six new blog posts to read!  I’ll do that quickly.  Each of those blog posts contain links.  I read the links.  My email pings.  I check my email, google some information, reply.  I check hangouts while I’m at the computer.  There’s a discussion going on, I contribute to it… etc.  And before I know it, something that should have taken five minutes at most has ballooned out past one hour.

Cutting down on this stuff helps too.  I will be turning off all notification sounds, closing the door to the study, putting the phones on silent– this usually happens when I’m doing school stuff with the kids but if a friend or relative calls, I tend to answer it. I’m a worrywart like that, the last time I ignored the phone when it rang three times in fifteen minutes was someone calling to tell me a relative had passed away.  If family are trying to contact us urgently, they now have other ways.

I found that when I wasn’t getting my stuff done because I ran out of time, it would usually always be a time management issue where I pretty much wasted time!  Now, I’d rather make myself a cup of tea and settle down to do non-essential computer stuff.

Also, I will try harder to Never Read The Comments.  Mostly because if it’s an article about something like veganism or homeschooling, many of the comments are either trolling, or genuine (in which case I get fired up).  Remember folks, Never Read The Comments!

Happy Grover!

Assertiveness

I like to imagine I’m confidently assertive but truthfully,I’m just a big old wuss who hates confrontation. I think I’m more assertive-after-the-fact.  Like when I get really bad customer service somewhere and I’m too stunned to say anything because my brain is saying “did I just hear that no I must be wrong surely someone wouldn’t be that rude” sort of stuff.  And five minutes later, when it’s often to late to say anything, I am fired up and figure out then what I should have said earlier.  Whenever I have been assertive, it has ended badly.  There have been times when I’ve had to stick up for myself and my family and no matter how polite or diplomatic I am, some people take it very badly or react in a fashion where I end up being public enemy number one over things like “you have the flu right now I know, but would you mind not kissing my baby while you’re sick?  It’s just that I don’t want to risk him getting sick I’M SO SORRY DON’T HATE MEEEEE”.  As a homeschooler and a vegan, I’ve had plenty of sillybilly comments made to me and most of the time it’s smile-change-the-subject.  I am practicing feeling comfortable with saying “we find that homeschooling is the perfect fit for our family and has worked really well” and repeating it with a slightly firmer yet still polite tone if the comments keep coming.  Ditto for being assertive where veganism is concerned! I usually answer “check out vegan body building” when people ask the protein question.  So yep.  Assertiveness is something I will try to be mindful of now.

Anne and Gilbert

Exercise is another one that is always on the list.  Since I stopped going to the gym regularly, I must admit there has been a definite change in my body and mood, and not for the better!  I do have the stuff at  home to continue being active but the truth is I’m lazy.  So I’m planning out some family fitness activities utilising the park and playground up the road.

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More Raw and Green Juice!

I’ve said it here before (and here I am saying it again) that overall I feel so much better when my diet consists mainly of wholefoods, often raw.  I’ve slacked off on the green juices/smoothies but I’m back with a vengeance now.  The family have a cack-coloured juice every day which is the green plus carrot.  I sleep better, I look better, I feel better!

They’re really the main issues I want to tackle in the new year and hopefully they’ll set the tone for the rest of the year.  With other things, well, sure I’d like to stick to my organisation systems but I prefer not to sweat it when things don’t go according to plan.  Life never goes according to plan!

So here’s to more realistic and mental-health positive goals for 2014!

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14 thoughts on “The No-Resolutions New Years Resolutions

  1. I managed to convince my husband to have green smoothies with me in the morning. I don’t know if it’s made much of a difference in terms of energy/otherwise wellbeing apart from a sense of: “yeah! Go me! I totally just ate a whole lot of raw fruit and veg!” – sort of, self satisfaction? Which is a little disappointing, but I have some tasty ones so it’s ok.
    I was also going to say: Yes! About reading the comments. It’s really hard not to sometimes though, isn’t it? 😉

  2. yep life certainly doesn’t go according to plan – hoping you have many joyful surprises in 2014 – I could probably do with some of most of the resolutions but I don’t make resolutions. Right now I just need to get through the rest of the year – how did it get to being days to new years!

  3. A great list of goals! I especially like the social media one – I’d like to cut it down to once a day (Facebook) and then once a week (weaning myself off)!

  4. I stopped reading newspapers and listening to news programs years ago. I am not drawn to it online either. Sometimes I do need to look up exactly what a new law means or one that may be coming up for voting. Politics and politicians do affect our lives, so once in a blue moon I have to turn to the news. For the most part I can just rely on my Mom since she is a news junky.

    I used to play Farmville on Facebook, and got hooked on it. I was spending too much time on it, and finally forced myself to stop and remove the app. No more online games for me.

    I am very active on Facebook. That is how I stay in touch with my neighbors and community groups. I am too active in my community to let go of Facebook. I am not connected to any family members on Facebook. I have no interest in using it for that. If I want to connect with family, I call them on the phone. My blog has a Facebook page, but that is mostly for promotion. I am also part of the All Souls Trilogy page which I love. I guess that I can say I do like social media. It serves important purposes for me, and has connected me to many wonderful people who have enriched my life. I never would have encountered them if it was not for social media. Goodreads is another one that I love. It is for lovers of books and reading.

    New Years resolutions is a great topic for a blog post. You just put the idea in my head. Thank you! 🙂

  5. We got rid of our tv in 2013, first we turned it off, then we unplugged it, then eventually we sold it. We don’t miss the noise, distraction, news or advertisements. We still enjoy box sets and dvds, but we’re quite happy to watch them via laptop.

    Hope you have a wonderful 2014!

  6. I try not to do resolutions but I do like to think about my priorities for the year. I too would like to be more consistent with meal planning. I can’t stand watching the news either….and I totally do that checking something out on the computer and then staying on for an hour! And I certainly hope I can get off my butt and exercise! But I doubt it. 😉

  7. Hello. Good on you! I feel you on the social media front, and the news front, and the assertiveness front, and the exercise front…lol! Social media can be so overwhelming sometimes. Good luck with it all and best wishes for the new year!

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